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Our Decisions and Destiny

Updated: Feb 7

Destiny is the unexplained turn of events in everyone’s lives. As I reflect on my own life’s journey, I often wonder if our lives have been predetermined even before we are born in this world. I question if conforming to society’s way of thinking has a cause and effect on our destiny.

Can the course of our actions or decisions on certain situations change our fate? Or is it been predestined, regardless?

I would like to think that we are able to create our own destiny with perseverance and tenacity in life. When I am faced with unforeseeable event, I ask myself if I could have done more or if I did the right thing. If I did what I need to do, would it matter or change the events that lead to it? Unfortunately, the answer to those questions can be vaguely answered.

To some, they will simply state that it is the will of God, Allah or whatever faith they follow. The sad thing, however, is that we often let society manipulate the paths we need to travel. Conforming to society’s expectations impacts the way in which our destiny goes. We like to get advice and seek opinions before making certain decision. I, for one, have done just that and have regretted the path it took me down, when I could have just listened to my instinct.

Goals, aspirations, love affairs and so on took a different path or ended because I felt pressured to conform to society’s expectations. Although, I am fully aware that I am also part of the problem because I gave society the permission to impact my life so. According to Roy T. Bennett, “It's your life; you don't need someone's permission to live the life you want. Be brave to live from your heart.”

While we may not always be happy with the path our life takes in certain situations, everyday is a new day. You can sulk and be sad, but we are always given a chance to move forward.

So, is our life predestined regardless of what decisions we make?

I’m not sure. But there is this illusion of freedom we have that makes us feel in control. The path we tackle each day may not take us where we want to go, but it is also a learning experience that will make us stronger in the long run.

Don’t let the society dictate you nor your life. To some extent, we are the creators of our own journey, no matter what others may think or say.

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